The other day as I was getting new tires put on my car I mentioned to the attendant that the shop was relatively quiet considering the cold weather and the holiday season. He quickly told me that I was being negative referring that the holiday season causes “trouble.” Later thinking about the incident I realized that my intention was not to speak words of negativity about the holiday season, but upon further examination of my spoken words I realized that they inferred negativity. And he called on the carpet for it. The good thing about the incident is that I can now look at the thought and do something about it.
The energy circulating in the universe right now uses synchronicity experiences to help us to become aware of our thoughts and feelings that keep us stuck in 3D consciousness. Awakening from the many programs functioning in this physical reality is a process we all must go through to become multidimensional beings. However in order to reach that status, we have to have a multidimensional consciousness. And it starts within.
It was time for inner reflection.
I love to curl up in front of the fireplace with a cup of ginger tea, my journal, tarot, angel and sacred geometry cards with Bocelli or the Gregorian chant playing quietly in the back ground. Usually, I’ll select one card from each of the three decks and meditate on them.
Often my guides will make their presence known, and I just follow the train of thought presented to me without any doubt. I let the thoughts flow onto the journal pages. They led me to my family of origin and failed relationships. I remembered how stressful holidays were. I probably could list pages of incidents, but I had moved from the blame game to self-empowerment. Nevertheless, the thought –holidays equal stress- was still planned in my consciousness. The incident with the car attendant showed me how it had spilled over to other areas of my life.
I knew that environmental stress such as a holiday produces a lot of inner conflict due to a lack of coping skills. I also knew that as a nurturer I’m so busy taking care of the needs of others I forget to take care of me. It was time to put my mask on first.
The powerful coping skills I put in place:
Meditation: Mindfulness meditation is the practice of purposely focusing your attention on the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future or getting caught up in making judgments about what’s happening. The great thing about my mindfulness practice is that it helped me to develop deep connections with others. The incident with the car attendant brought me back to full awareness of daily activities. I’m more conscious of what I’m saying, doing, and thinking. Holiday stress will probably never really go away. But through mindfulness I’ll be aware and be in the NOW.
I find it to be one of the most effective techniques you can use. It’s universal and will change the face of medicine.
Therapy: To reach out and touch someone is a powerful action. We all need someone we can talk to about our life experiences. The human race survives on social interaction. When things go terribly wrong in our lives that’s the time we need to reach out to a family member or friend. Hopefully that person is nonjudgmental. Some of us are lucky to have such a person, others are not. Another alternative is to seek out professional help. In this piece, I’m referring to psychotherapy that helps a person use his own experiences to bring about the desired changes or solve normal problems. One of the first things in any challenge is being aware of what’s going on in the body, mind and spirit. Listen closely because all the aches, pains and hurts are the results of our own thoughts and feelings. Talk to a love one or try therapy. Do not hold it in. The challenge/pain is not going away until you do something about it. Lastly, take responsibility for your life by accepting all of life experiences. To help me with this, I often recite The Serenity Prayer by Reinhold Niebuhr:
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference